They see her as a manifestation of a prejudgemental being. When they look upon thee, they see not only her but a beauty idea that manifest through the person. This is why they try so hard to impress her. Of course they are not aware of it, let alone control it. Ive talked about what we need to change about ourselves that makes us vulnerable. Because of these thoughts men think the person standing next to him is the one. No. She is not. Nobody is. By creation we are imperfect. We search, to fill the void inside us. We hope that someone else is the answer while it was us, all along. By embracing our weak sides, by improving them. We cannot fill ourselves, not with this ridiculous search. Our search is for the beauty idea, not for some imposter who promises us to be our guide on this journey.